So...this morning at 6:45am my phone rings, it is my mom on her cell phone...dad is in the hospital, he has another blockage andthey think this is the big surgery that we have all been dreading. My poor mom, has to work today (she sells real estate and has to present an offer) I can't go to see dad until later.
Some of you might remember that my father has had issues with his colon and has had 3 major hernia surgeries in 3 years. We knew that he had 5 hurnia, 3 months ago, but thought he would have more time before he would have to have this surgery. It is very serious this time. They are going to remove this awful mesh that this other doctor used last time. Only this time it is very serious, he could bleed to death when they remove the mesh. So needless to say...we need some serious prayers here. I will keep everyone posted, I know they have admitted him and mom said she would call as soon as she hears something. My house is a mess, I haven't check my work email, I am doing laundry...oh good lord!
And then to top off this wonderful day we are having, we got a call from Jeff's cousin that his grandmother died last night.This is the mother of his father whom we have not spoken to in 2 years. The same father who didn't call Jeff to congratulate him on the brith of his son. This is the father who new wife wrote my husband a letter telling him what a horrible person I am from keeping him from this father...(side note...Jeff and his father have never gotten along...his father was too selfish, was very young when he had him and looked at him as a burden more then a son) And I am the one who has kept them apart! So his grandmother was old, 88, and died in he sleep in the nursing home. Now she is in a better place, without pain.
So his cousin wants us there for the wake (tomorrow from 2-7) the whole time, his Aunt also expressed that she wants us there. So we will go...but Jeff's father will also be there. I have very mixed emotions about the whole thing. I am in the middle of this whole mess...There is alot of bitterness between Jeff's sister toward his cousin (I love his cousin, we went to high school together and she married a childhood friend of mine, and we have had some issues in the past but we are all fine now...Strange how things happen) Their grandmother favored his cousin over Jeff and his sister...so I understand where the anger is coming from, but with his sister ( Jeff's ) I feel like tellhing to GET OVER IT! MOVE ON! You were so little, now they both have boys around the same age. Jeff's cousin is preggers with her 4th boy, so Julian and him will be 13 months apart, and that isn't that far apart when they are older. We have mended the fence with them along time ago.
Keep me in your thoughts and prayers please. Thanks and hugs